But, just as importantly, it means emotional boundaries that “teach people who we are and how we would like to be handled in relationships” (Eddins p. A sense of boundaries in a dating relationship cannot only make you feel more confident about how things are going, they can help you make quicker decisions to all those questions I mentioned above. Especially in circles for Christian singles, “boundaries” almost always means “physical limits”.The Bible talks a lot about keeping healthy boundaries, but not in the same way that secular publications talk about them.Boundaries aren’t selfish, just as taking time alone to reboot isn’t selfish.Practically speaking, dating relationships should be invited and wanted, not pressured or coerced. We can taper how much we express; it's best to not always say everything we feel.
We weren’t perfect and didn’t have it all figured out, but I can tell you this: Our wedding night was the first time we saw each other naked, the first time we touched each other in…well, you know…and the first time we slept in the same bed. I don’t have all the answers, but I did learn seven things that really helped me and my husband set physical boundaries while dating. He said, “That’s fine; if you don’t want to do this and such, then we won’t”—and he meant it. If there’s anything that could have protected us a little more from heartbreak, it’s probably a different set of Christian dating boundaries. It’s such a broad subject, and everyone seems to have their own special interpretation of it. ” Sometimes we find ourselves swept away in the possibility of a new relationship, only to find ourselves dropped out the other end of a dump truck. But a truly Christian conception of boundaries in dating will not only draw physical boundaries (as if dating was merely a relationship between two Christian bodies).(1) Personal boundaries promote individual independence. They protect a person's agency, space, friend/family/God relationships, and academic/professional contexts as their own—that is, free from invasiveness of their romantic other. There are several ways to exercise emotional wisdom with feelings.