What if, for instance, you are a reasonably attractive dating package who's just been ghosted by someone you thought was in it for the long haul? If that were you, you could feel a range of emotions from confusion, conflict, devastation, grief, insecurity, hurt, or anger.Sometimes you might feel like you’re desperate to be in a relationship…until the possibility is right in front of you. I also never thought I would find a guy my family approved of, so I sort of let being in a relationship become, like, my 40th priority.No one can tell another person when to try again, when to retreat, what to change, or how to approach next opportunity.There are just too many variables to create a stereotype.Though they've had more options than ever to meet potential partners, most of those relationships didn't work out.Though still willing to try again, these still-undefeated warriors have become understandably wary.Every relationship seeker I have met has a unique set of reasons for why they are still single.That individual add-up sets the scene for how much dating energy is left to risk.
If life were one big bumper car game, and we were all afraid of getting hurt, we would be a little more gentle with each other, wouldn’t we be? But unless you have very, very strong convictions to be single for the rest of your life (hey there, my nuns sisters! We’ve all received the memo, and we are all okay with it. If you are afraid to enter a relationship because you don’t think you have time, there is a much bigger problem, here, and it has nothing to do with relationships. Are they leading to actual, legitimate reasons for concern? (I wish someone would have pounded this into my brain years ago.) If you really want to be in that relationship, you will make it work because you won’t see any other option.
They miss having a warm, rich, intimate partnership. You see, these women are not scared of dating, because they know the reward of having a partner in life.
The reward far outweighs any of the risks of dating to find him.
” about a failed relationship—it’s doing that to help you, because sex and love and relationships, while probably the meaning of life, can also you.
Fear is the necessary, balancing, you-in-danger-girl half of doing anything worth doing; your job isn’t to eliminate or ignore fear, like we’re told to, or even to accept it on its own terms as something that limits you.